Saturday, December 26, 2015

New Year's Resolutions are So Last Year

With the New Year just days away, it’s time once again to reflect over the past year, re-examine where we are in our lives today, and where we want the future to take us, or should I say, where we want to take our future.

Most of us practice the yearly ritual of setting New Year’s resolutions, which many times are just a repeat of last year’s resolutions. How many times have you vowed once again to “lose weight, stop smoking, get more exercise,” or other things along those lines? I think two out of three of those have been my running mantra for at least half of my life! 

And therein lies the problem with making NewYear’s resolutions. They usually focus on the negative, areas in our life where we feel we have shortcomings, or where we have failed in the past. One more way to beat our self-esteem up a little bit. And focusing on the negative things in our life or the negative way in which we feel about ourselves can only bring us more of the same. Our thoughts become our reality. What this means is that if we create and visualize something in our mind, that image attracts energy and whatever we’re picturing begins to become a reality. 

So if this is true, then instead of looking back, and “resolving” to make a change, or to get it right this time, we should set intentions, where we look forward, take aim, make a plan. When we focus, commit to, and are clear about the positive things that we want to attract in life, that is when we are working with intentions. But there is that little catch; we can’t just want something. We need to focus on that something, commit to that something and have a clear vision as to what that something is.

Intention is the strong desire and visualization of what you want to create in your life. Everything you do in life involves an intention and is followed by an action. We have the power, free will, and the choice to create the kind of life we want to live.

To set an intention, there are three main elements needed. The first is to know exactly what you want. So really sit with yourself and decide what that is. For example, if you want to attract a partner in life, don't just say, "I want to be in a relationship." No, be specific. What are the qualities you want in this person? Write down the details, all of them. You can't be wishy-washy here. Then, you need to visualize the desired result before it actually happens, and lastly, expect the result to happen. Intention is that magical combination of will, motivation and desire.

All of our feelings, beliefs and knowledge are based on our internal thoughts, both conscious and subconscious. We’ve all been told about the power of positive thinking. But it's not that simple. Just thinking positive won’t bring about the changes you desire. We need to truly believe these positive thoughts. And since we don't really know what old beliefs our subconscious is holding on to, we need to get these two on the same page. Here are a few things you can do to help you develop the power of positive thinking/believing:

  • Positive self-talk. Only use positive words in your inner dialogue, and repeat them often. When we hear something enough, we start to believe it. So use words such as, I can, I am able, it is possible, etc.
  • When setting your intention, visualize clearly in your mind its successful outcome. When you set an intention, always clarify, “this, or something better.” But also, make sure to show gratitude for all that you already have.
  • Surround yourself with positive people who fully support your vision and goals.
  • Be patient and loving with yourself and believe that you are worth having the best that life has to offer. 

So this year, blow off making those guilt-ridden resolutions and set a positive, empowering, intention or two instead.